V has tagged me. Tags are a good excuse for introspection !
YOUR MOST HATED…
BEVERAGE: All colas - It plays havoc with the body system.
COLOR:Brown. It reminds me of farmer's suicides. Don't know why.
TOWN/CITY:NA - I have seen multitude of places but I don't hate any place. Everything has a beauty of its own.
ANIMAL:Its a reptile ! Lizard... especially those scaly dark ones :-S
SEASON: Scorching summer of North India - nothing helps that time, wear full clothes or no clothes, it doesn't give you any relief.
ASPECT OF TALKING ON THE PHONE: Can not see the person on other side. What is being said is a joke or not ?
ASPECT OF WATCHING TV OR MOVIES: They go on and on and on....
ASPECT OF EATING IN RESTAURANTS: What to order !!
ASPECT OF SHOWERING: Slow Speed ! ( At least in mine )
ASPECT OF DATING: Artificiality
ASPECT OF THE BEACH: Noisy ! Lonely beaches are peaceful.
ASPECT OF THE GROCERY STORE: Queues. Wait for 30 minutes to buy a 10Rs. chocolate.
HOUSEHOLD CHORE: Washing dishes - Dishwater cant help ! need a better invention
HABIT IN OTHERS?I am the ONLY one capable and others are no good !
HABIT OF YOURS? Sensitivity
THING ABOUT WOMEN? Discussion on guys.
THING ABOUT MEN? Their negative opinion about females!
WHAT’S ANNOYING YOU TODAY? Joblessness
Friday, December 15, 2006
Wednesday, December 13, 2006
Redefining Success
What is success ? Meeting your set goals ? Getting awards, recognition ? or may be none of them or is it a set of goals you pursue and achieve one after another ?? Can we call half finished race a success ? Can we call an initiative a success ? Does success depends only on results ? Is there any weightage given to sincere efforts that are put to achieve a goal irrespective of end results ?
Mostly NO, success is defined only by end results. There are some scenarios though, wherein I would disagree with this definition of success.
1. There is a child who just had some leg surgery or is disabled. If that kid participates in a race and loses, then its NOT success as per the above definition. But we know that he gathered the strength and guts to even participate and he has put efforts, so he can be called successful.
2. There is a female who is scared of some rowdy who teases her on street every time she goes out. She does not have the courage to look in his eyes, abuse him and slap him. One day she builds up her mind and slaps that rowdy real hard. This might not change the behaviour of that rowdy but can we call this display of courage by the lady a success ?
3. Imagine a budding entrepreneur. He/She starts their own business venture. It runs into losses and due to some unfortunate accident the founder dies. Somebody else takes over and does some changes and the organisation starts making profits. What do we do now ? call the founder a failure even thought he/she initiated that venture ?
So do we change the definition of success ?
No need, lets just change the perspective. Do not call somebody/yourself successful by using somebody else's viewpoint. Define your success as seen from your eyes, call others successful if you would have judged yourself successful in similar circumstances. Use it to brighten up the day of a person who has just lost !
Mostly NO, success is defined only by end results. There are some scenarios though, wherein I would disagree with this definition of success.
1. There is a child who just had some leg surgery or is disabled. If that kid participates in a race and loses, then its NOT success as per the above definition. But we know that he gathered the strength and guts to even participate and he has put efforts, so he can be called successful.
2. There is a female who is scared of some rowdy who teases her on street every time she goes out. She does not have the courage to look in his eyes, abuse him and slap him. One day she builds up her mind and slaps that rowdy real hard. This might not change the behaviour of that rowdy but can we call this display of courage by the lady a success ?
3. Imagine a budding entrepreneur. He/She starts their own business venture. It runs into losses and due to some unfortunate accident the founder dies. Somebody else takes over and does some changes and the organisation starts making profits. What do we do now ? call the founder a failure even thought he/she initiated that venture ?
So do we change the definition of success ?
No need, lets just change the perspective. Do not call somebody/yourself successful by using somebody else's viewpoint. Define your success as seen from your eyes, call others successful if you would have judged yourself successful in similar circumstances. Use it to brighten up the day of a person who has just lost !
Friday, December 08, 2006
Its a mess !!!
Life is a roller-coaster ride with no controls in my hand. I am experiencing it for the first time. Things are happening at their own mood and pace, and I just simply stand and gape at it helplessly. All this brings a surge of mixed emotions love, hatred, anger. Sometimes I feel am I so stupid and foolish ??? I feel like writing and blabbering non-stop, but there are no ears who would listen to me, and there are no eyes who would read my words.
Things will reach a stable state, but I don't know when, and till they do not reach a conclusion my life is hanging like a pendulum. The sufferer of all this is my sole ambition, I am not giving it enough attention and time is running fast !!! I promise I will catch up as much as I can.
My Fingers are crossed !!
Don't worry if you do not understand a single word written here. If I cant figure out my own thoughts, then how would you :-S
Things will reach a stable state, but I don't know when, and till they do not reach a conclusion my life is hanging like a pendulum. The sufferer of all this is my sole ambition, I am not giving it enough attention and time is running fast !!! I promise I will catch up as much as I can.
My Fingers are crossed !!
Don't worry if you do not understand a single word written here. If I cant figure out my own thoughts, then how would you :-S
Saturday, October 07, 2006
Learned a simple lesson
I was talking to a friend of mine. He told me a principle he follows, it was not an out of the world principle, we all have heard about it billion number of times but its application is really really difficult.
The point is not to get angry. Control your anger as anger upsets you more than the person on whom you become angry. Kudos to him as he told me various incidents wherein a person would have lost his/her temper but he maintained his calm. We also discussed the disastrous impact if he would have lost his cool and discovered that its really not worth to lose your peace of mind over a small issue !
He has asked me to follow it and I will try my best. Let me make a conscious effort to do so !
Thinking on the similar lines, life will be much better if one learns to control all the emotions be it anger, love, hatred, happiness, sadness, excitement etc.
That does not mean that we stop enjoying moments but lets not get overwhelmed by them so that when we lose things we do not crash altogether. Also while cultivating this do not become weak so that people can take you for granted ! Also think of the instances wherein you could have improved the situations if not for your anger !
The point is not to get angry. Control your anger as anger upsets you more than the person on whom you become angry. Kudos to him as he told me various incidents wherein a person would have lost his/her temper but he maintained his calm. We also discussed the disastrous impact if he would have lost his cool and discovered that its really not worth to lose your peace of mind over a small issue !
He has asked me to follow it and I will try my best. Let me make a conscious effort to do so !
Thinking on the similar lines, life will be much better if one learns to control all the emotions be it anger, love, hatred, happiness, sadness, excitement etc.
That does not mean that we stop enjoying moments but lets not get overwhelmed by them so that when we lose things we do not crash altogether. Also while cultivating this do not become weak so that people can take you for granted ! Also think of the instances wherein you could have improved the situations if not for your anger !
Friday, October 06, 2006
I am Tagged !!
V Tagged me so here i Go
I am thinking about… When to go home ?.
I said…"I'll wait"
I want to… be more clear about my thoughts.
I wish…to slow down the time machine
I hear… Truly Madly Deeply
I wonder… whats the aim of life ?
I regret… my childish behaviour when the situation demanded a mature one
I am ..calm.
I dance… as soon as music starts playing !
I sing… in the bathroom
I cry… easily
I am not always… sick.
I make with my hands… omlette, sketches.
I write… snippets of news
I confuse… love and friendship
I need… someone
And finally… I tag M, D and U
I am thinking about… When to go home ?.
I said…"I'll wait"
I want to… be more clear about my thoughts.
I wish…to slow down the time machine
I hear… Truly Madly Deeply
I wonder… whats the aim of life ?
I regret… my childish behaviour when the situation demanded a mature one
I am ..calm.
I dance… as soon as music starts playing !
I sing… in the bathroom
I cry… easily
I am not always… sick.
I make with my hands… omlette, sketches.
I write… snippets of news
I confuse… love and friendship
I need… someone
And finally… I tag M, D and U
Friday, September 29, 2006
Gandhigiri
A very popular term nowadays! It has struck a chord somewhere in young India but the wrong one. The chord is that of a style or trend rather than the chord of values. It has become fashionable to use the term Gandhigiri but the real essence behind that is mostly ignored. Even I like the term but understanding the true meaning behind it is a real difficult task.
We all know the terms Non-Violence, Satyagraha and most of us claim to understand it. But let a real situation come and we'll start compromising with the situation rather than fighting with the situation.
Let me give my own example, 2 years back I applied for passport. One of the stage in that process is address verification by police. They just do not do it if you do not bribe them. And I would have faced problems if the process got delayed. I must admit that it did not even take a minute for me to give in to the situation and I paid him the money to get the verification done.
Its really easy to talk and give lecture about all this but in real situations we do not find it so practical as there are other things which assume importance. We know we did wrong but we can not help it. As Gandhiji rightly said , its not easy to do Satyagraha , one has to be really really strong and firm to do it. As an individual I am not that strong yet. I have the tendency to give in to situations even though I know that its wrong.
Still a long way to go....
I dream of getting that strength in me, I am working hard for it. Not due to the trend factor though, but because of my own liking for these simple yet rock strong principles. Let the Gandhian thoughts be translated to action. At least lets give it a try.
We all know the terms Non-Violence, Satyagraha and most of us claim to understand it. But let a real situation come and we'll start compromising with the situation rather than fighting with the situation.
Let me give my own example, 2 years back I applied for passport. One of the stage in that process is address verification by police. They just do not do it if you do not bribe them. And I would have faced problems if the process got delayed. I must admit that it did not even take a minute for me to give in to the situation and I paid him the money to get the verification done.
Its really easy to talk and give lecture about all this but in real situations we do not find it so practical as there are other things which assume importance. We know we did wrong but we can not help it. As Gandhiji rightly said , its not easy to do Satyagraha , one has to be really really strong and firm to do it. As an individual I am not that strong yet. I have the tendency to give in to situations even though I know that its wrong.
Still a long way to go....
I dream of getting that strength in me, I am working hard for it. Not due to the trend factor though, but because of my own liking for these simple yet rock strong principles. Let the Gandhian thoughts be translated to action. At least lets give it a try.
Thursday, September 28, 2006
A start !
Something about Circular Sphere first …..
Can you call a sphere circular ??? Not really right, circle is a 2D entity and sphere is a 3D entity. Our brain is a circular sphere, wherein inherently it was made to think all the dimensions but as we progress and learn, that extra dimension is cut off. We are forced NOT to think in a different dimension. But still that dimension lives on and drives your life even without you knowing it.
That dimension is the human dimension which differentiates human beings. Human dimension is about righteousness and standing to one’s beliefs. The thoughts in the other two dimesnions scoff at this 3rd dimension as outdated, stale and out of trend. The other 2 dimensions are dominated by society and friends.Society includes your neighbours, office colleagues. With society you share the first dimension wherein you pretend to be in 3rd dimension but when time comes you fall back due to pressure from them. Friends are people with whom you share the 2nd dimension wherein you try to reach 3rd dimension but can not as you are scared of being laughed at.
This 3rd dimension dominates both the other dimensions. The day this 3rd dimension is lost you lose these old values, your path to hell starts where you start enjoying other’s suffering and you make sure people suffer and you gain at their expense. Thats the time when you lose the depth of human emotions and values and the sphere starts looking like a circle.
Can you call a sphere circular ??? Not really right, circle is a 2D entity and sphere is a 3D entity. Our brain is a circular sphere, wherein inherently it was made to think all the dimensions but as we progress and learn, that extra dimension is cut off. We are forced NOT to think in a different dimension. But still that dimension lives on and drives your life even without you knowing it.
That dimension is the human dimension which differentiates human beings. Human dimension is about righteousness and standing to one’s beliefs. The thoughts in the other two dimesnions scoff at this 3rd dimension as outdated, stale and out of trend. The other 2 dimensions are dominated by society and friends.Society includes your neighbours, office colleagues. With society you share the first dimension wherein you pretend to be in 3rd dimension but when time comes you fall back due to pressure from them. Friends are people with whom you share the 2nd dimension wherein you try to reach 3rd dimension but can not as you are scared of being laughed at.
This 3rd dimension dominates both the other dimensions. The day this 3rd dimension is lost you lose these old values, your path to hell starts where you start enjoying other’s suffering and you make sure people suffer and you gain at their expense. Thats the time when you lose the depth of human emotions and values and the sphere starts looking like a circle.
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