Its a dreaded word for those who have seen the darker side of it. I am one of them. I have many a times missed out on the expectations of my parents and my friends in particular.
I fail to judge sometimes what a person has in mind while saying something. It may be as simple as that I refused a lunch because I was not hungry, is it an offence ? I didn't think so but that person did and felt really bad. But do I deserve to listen to all the bad stuff that person said to me that I don't care, I don't bother, I am selfish etc etc.....
Its good to expect but not so much that it crushes the other person even if other person had no such intention. Expectations should be clubbed with intentions and then a judgement should be arrived at.
If the person had bad intentions and tried to hurt intentionally then it does call for some hot discussion but not otherwise. As friends we should trust each other so much that we can analyse other person's behaviour if he or she is not behaving in an expected manner.
Just getting angry, walking out, shouting does not help. That's not what a relationship is all about.
Nobody can be perfect in relationships. We keep learning through experiences but it really hurts when somebody close to you comes and blames you for something you never intended to. Lets be more reasonable!
Saturday, June 30, 2007
Monday, June 18, 2007
We will be past someday !
Old age... something which everybody fears ! Why? because one becomes dependent ? helpless ? weak ? isolated ? aloof ?
Can it be better ? yes sure it can be if we respect older generations and set an example for future generations. Taking care of people at an old age is something that is taken as a burden. I have seen people doing it happily for initial few days but as time passes, they are reluctant to even give the older people a glass of water. Those sons and daughters who got more than 100% from their parents are not able to do even 1% for them. Don't they feel ashamed ??? Parents looked after you day and night, tolerated all your tantrums, stayed awake whole night just to make you sleep and children when they grow up forget all this, make up their own world which has no place for parents !!!! Children mean the world to parents, but for many children parents mean nothing once parents become old.
Its pitiable to see it happening daily in our surroundings, our homes. At least us, who want to take care of our elders should do it whenever possible and when the time comes.
Take care of them, sit and talk to them. Just throwing money wont help, show them that you really really care.
I am not yet doing what I can in this front, but I will try to......
Can it be better ? yes sure it can be if we respect older generations and set an example for future generations. Taking care of people at an old age is something that is taken as a burden. I have seen people doing it happily for initial few days but as time passes, they are reluctant to even give the older people a glass of water. Those sons and daughters who got more than 100% from their parents are not able to do even 1% for them. Don't they feel ashamed ??? Parents looked after you day and night, tolerated all your tantrums, stayed awake whole night just to make you sleep and children when they grow up forget all this, make up their own world which has no place for parents !!!! Children mean the world to parents, but for many children parents mean nothing once parents become old.
Its pitiable to see it happening daily in our surroundings, our homes. At least us, who want to take care of our elders should do it whenever possible and when the time comes.
Take care of them, sit and talk to them. Just throwing money wont help, show them that you really really care.
I am not yet doing what I can in this front, but I will try to......
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